There is a mystery to leadership, whether you lead an ongoing team or a one-off group.
This mystery is important because without it, people would be able to predict your actions and imitate them. Retaining the mystique keeps things fresh.
Here are five ways of injecting unpredictability into group work.
1. Learn as you go
Keep your group work fresh by changing the way you do things now and again
The challenges of facilitation are also its joys: knowing that some things will work and others won’t; knowing that each session is a learning experience for you as well as the group; keeping yourself open to possibilities that can surprise as well as disappoint.
• Keep your group work fresh by changing the way you do things now and again
• Take risks with materials and see what happens
• Have confidence in your intuitive side throughout
• Keep an eye out for material from everyday life: the home, the family, your social life
• Be a continuous learner
• Be childlike in your curiosity
• Let your natural style come through
• Enjoy each experience of group work
2. Lighten up
Adding perspective and a touch of lightheartedness to each experience of groupwork can guard against the enemies of facilitation: being too serious, forcing things and trying too hard.
Lightening up does a number of things:
• It reminds you that the role of helper is basically one of common sense and wisdom, not intellectual knowledge
• It helps you to not take yourself too seriously
• It reflects the gentle approach that is the hallmark of facilitation
• It helps you put bad experiences down to experience
• it allows us to accept the value of all types of human behaviour, including clowning around and having fun
"The first thing most people say when they get to Heaven is "why was I so serious?" (Old Red Indian saying)
3. Be open to surprises
The ‘I've seen it all, done it all’ attitude of some experienced facilitators not only leads to staleness in group work, but also deprives them of the delight of being surprised in life.
• Don't take anything about group work for granted
• Retain a childlike wonder for the possibilities around you
• Have respect for each session of group work as a unique event
• Don't become stale by sticking to routines
• Be willing to learn, take risks and abandon all your plans if the moment requires it
"It is exceedingly important that a man should allow himself to be surprised in daily life: that he not be habit-bound or jaded; that he always have a sense of wonder about his life and the lives and words, gestures and images of others. One must always be ready for surprises." (Joseph Zinker)
4. Take nothing as read
Facilitation is a style of group leadership that aims to empower those who are led.
It doesn't direct; it doesn't prescribe; it doesn't demand; it doesn't use worked-out solutions.
It engenders healthy scepticism.
"Do not believe in what you have heard; do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for generations; do not believe in anything because it is rumoured or spoken by many; do not believe merely because a written statement of some old sage is produced; do not believe in conjectures; do not believe in that as truth to which you have become attached by habit; do not believe because of the authority of your teachers and elders. After observation and analysis, when it agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and gain of one and all, then accept it, practice it and live up to it." (The Buddha, 568-488BC)
5. Process not outcomes
One of the most valuable lessons of the facilitative approach to group work is that it focuses on the value of process, not outcomes.
In control groups and manipulated groups the group leader only wants people to arrive at their solutions and existing answers; anything else is ‘off script’.
But rushing to pre-ordained goals has no value for people. Wisdom, fun and creativity come from the journey, not the destination.
"The honey doesn't taste so good once it is being eaten, the goal doesn't mean so much once it's been reached; the reward isn't so rewarding once it's been given. That doesn't mean the goals we have don't count. They do, mostly because they cause us to go through the process, and it's the process that makes us wise, happy or whatever. If we do things in the wrong sort of way, it makes us miserable, angry, confused and things like that. The goal has to be right for us, and it has to be beneficial in order to ensure a beneficial process. But, aside from that, it's really the process that's important. Enjoyment of the process is the secret that erases the myths of the Great Reward..." (Benjamin Hoff: ‘The Tao of Pooh’)
